It’s All My Fault (As Usual)
By Glinda
Here come the fine folks at the University of Minnesota to reassure us moms that yes, we have the ability to screw up our children, and good.
Among other things found in the Minnesota Longitudinal Study of Risk and Adaptation, researchers found that:
The strength of the bond you formed with Mom during the first two years of life strongly affects how efficiently you and your partner will move beyond a fight and join forces to accomplish mutual goals.
Those people who had formed a strong bond with their mothers were better able to resolve conflicts with their partners, and those who were not as fortunate tended to not play nice in a fight.
Not all is lost for those who didn’t resolve conflicts as quickly. The study found that if they had a partner who was able to “get over it” quickly, then the relationship fared better.
But wait, couldn’t that be said of any relationship? If your partner doesn’t really care, I would think it would be easy to move on from conflict no matter how much you hate your Mom. Jebus.
I swear, every psychiatrist should have a plaque in their office saying, “Thanks, Mom!”
Don’t you think?