I can’t remember if I was at the doctor’s office filling out my daughter’s two year checkup questionnaire or if I was reading something on the internet, but whatever it was, it indicated that time-outs were not appropriate for toddlers.
Honestly, if I didn’t use a time out for my daughter, she would probably have hurt herself doing something she wasn’t supposed to do. Simply telling her does not cut it, and I refuse to hit. She is an envelope pusher (please, may that trait serve her well later in life) and if I don’t have SOMETHING to resort to as a punishment, my life would be more of a living hell than it already is.
Because even the time out doesn’t always work, and once I threaten one, I am extremely consistent about following up. I give her warnings and don’t jump straight to the time out, but in cases like the one where she tries to climb up our entertainment center to touch the television, they are used immediately. I only use time outs when she is going to hurt herself in some way or has hurt someone else in some way, such as the time when she was very into punching her brother in the private area. Sorry, not going to be tolerated and I don’t see any other recourse. I take her physically away from whatever is going on, sit her with me, and tell her why she has to sit with me. I don’t keep her that long, but I think my message comes across.
I didn’t have to use time outs for the Munchkin until much later in his life, definitely after three. He was a completely different type of child, so much that it makes my head spin to think about it. But like all kids, he has his own special brand of misbehaving.
Oddly enough, I remember that the article didn’t really have any other options for discipline other than distraction. Let me tell you, once they get to a certain age, distraction doesn’t work.
Unless of course, the distraction is a time out.