It’s totally irrational, I freely admit it.
But it annoys me to no end to see a family dynamic that is fairly uncontrollable (unless possibly adopting a particular sex) played out as competition.
The one up in the picture I can sort of live with, but I saw one today that caused me a fair amount of rage.
Instead of a simple boys vs. girls, it had “Boys 2, Princess 1.”
Let’s not show any favoritism here or anything. Nothing like letting everyone in the Southern California region know that you think your daughter is a cute, adorable princess and your boys are just, well, boys. Whatever.
Now if it had said “Princes 2, Princess 1″ I would have been totally fine with it.
Perhaps I have a certain sensitivity when it comes to girl favoritism when it comes to my in-laws, who definitely fawn over the granddaughters much more than the grandsons. And of course, they have almost twice as many grandsons.
Fine, fine. It’s totally a personal problem. I’ll just go away and sulk in a corner by myself.
Is your tween girl hankering to dress like a literary character?
Well, she’d better be prepared to slut it up as Hermione Granger, because tight, short, and shiny is most of what is out there on the store-bought costume front. I’m sure you can find some that aren’t, but all of those listed as “most popular” are the ones that show the most skin.
This is called Robyn Da Hood Tween Costume, and I just can’t with the name. Perhaps it has its origins in some movie that my seriously unhip 41 year old self does not know about, but I still can’t no matter where it is from.
Hermione certainly is looking grown up. May I interest you in a shirt, Hermione? Shirts are your friend.
She certainly looks ready for a party, although I’m not sure it will include tea.
The list is practically endless.
And extremely depressing for us non-sewers.
So 43% of you are just fine with the Unbaby.me app that removes all bubbeh pics from your Facebook feed. 26% are like, whatever, 17% say if you dislike babies that much, just unfriend the person already, and 13% of you are not even on Facebook.
Today’s question is regarding the recent change in policy to male infant circumcision. It seems that a peer-reviewed study has shown that the benefits of circumcision outweigh the risks, and the AAP is stopping just short of recommending routine infant circumcision.
As some of you may have read, the annual cost of child care in some states exceeds that of tuition for a four year degree.
Let’s think about that for a second.
I am all for paying childcare workers a fair and living wage, as well as treating their positions with respect. But is the high cost of a full-time daycare truly reflective of a highly trained staff and a safe, stimulating setting, or is it a business just trying to take advantage of a situation where both parents feel they need/want to work?
When I became pregnant with the Munchkin, my husband and I sat down and discussed what I was going to do with myself once our son was born. My husband was all for me continuing to work, as he likes having money. I too, like having money, but I pointed out to him that the cost of childcare would negate much of my earnings (although not all) but the net gain we would make from my salary wasn’t worth it to me.
This was a point of contention for a while, with him pointing out that we could hire some aging grandmother off the street who would come in for cheap. Well, that might have been true, but I still felt that my son was best off with me as his caregiver, period.
So, as in many of our disagreements, I came out the winner.
If good, reliable childcare that didn’t break the bank in my area was obtainable, I might have considered staying at work, or at least scaling back to half or part time.
But it wasn’t.
And so here I sit, stay at home mother to a 4th grader and a toddler with speech and developmental delays.
Yeah, not looking good for a return to the workforce any time soon.
Is childcare in your area reasonable, or a big ripoff? And how did it influence your decision to stay/not stay at home?