Comments on: Cheatin’ Hearts http://teenymanolo.com/2009/12/17/cheatin-hearts/ Celebrating the Joys of Parenting and Childhood Wed, 01 Feb 2012 14:01:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: raincoaster http://teenymanolo.com/2009/12/17/cheatin-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-140485 raincoaster Sat, 26 Dec 2009 06:25:53 +0000 http://teenymanolo.com/?p=4921#comment-140485 I just can't figure out why you'd cheat on your wife with a dozen women who look more or less just like her. I just can’t figure out why you’d cheat on your wife with a dozen women who look more or less just like her.

]]> By: J http://teenymanolo.com/2009/12/17/cheatin-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-140264 J Wed, 23 Dec 2009 04:41:32 +0000 http://teenymanolo.com/?p=4921#comment-140264 Cheating happens for a lot of reasons, sometimes even in happy relationships. I think that for some men (and women), the amazing moment of having someone SO into you is like a drug. I'm not saying that people cannot resist it, because many people clearly do. But I kinda wonder about people who have big egos, like you would if you were a famous sports figure or politician or movie star, and what that does to your sense of right and wrong? I have a friend who's husband cheated on her twice (divorced now, thanks), and I think it had as much to do with his success and feeling like he "deserved" to be able to sleep around as anything else. Now that the economy has crashed, so has he, and his ways have changed, and he deeply regrets breaking her heart. So I guess my point is, it's complicated. Not that I think it's OK, but it's complicated. Cheating happens for a lot of reasons, sometimes even in happy relationships. I think that for some men (and women), the amazing moment of having someone SO into you is like a drug. I’m not saying that people cannot resist it, because many people clearly do. But I kinda wonder about people who have big egos, like you would if you were a famous sports figure or politician or movie star, and what that does to your sense of right and wrong? I have a friend who’s husband cheated on her twice (divorced now, thanks), and I think it had as much to do with his success and feeling like he “deserved” to be able to sleep around as anything else. Now that the economy has crashed, so has he, and his ways have changed, and he deeply regrets breaking her heart.

So I guess my point is, it’s complicated. Not that I think it’s OK, but it’s complicated.

]]> By: Glinda http://teenymanolo.com/2009/12/17/cheatin-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-140190 Glinda Tue, 22 Dec 2009 00:06:22 +0000 http://teenymanolo.com/?p=4921#comment-140190 Well, seeing as how I've known him for almost twenty years and you are going off of one remark I've selectively chosen, I'm pretty confident. But my main point was that our culture is not one that particularly punishes cheating (especially by sucessful males), and this is true of many others as well. So if even my husband buys into the whole "ball and chain" message, then it's pretty pervasive. Well, seeing as how I’ve known him for almost twenty years and you are going off of one remark I’ve selectively chosen, I’m pretty confident.

But my main point was that our culture is not one that particularly punishes cheating (especially by sucessful males), and this is true of many others as well. So if even my husband buys into the whole “ball and chain” message, then it’s pretty pervasive.

]]> By: Chiken http://teenymanolo.com/2009/12/17/cheatin-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-140179 Chiken Mon, 21 Dec 2009 20:25:19 +0000 http://teenymanolo.com/?p=4921#comment-140179 You can tell yourself that he is one of the most enlightened guys around, but that response is anything but. Wow. You can tell yourself that he is one of the most enlightened guys around, but that response is anything but. Wow.

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