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Revealing More Than She Thinks

By Glinda

Has a Problem Bigger Than Her Weight

E-list “celebrity” Trista Sutter (the Bachelorette, just to remind anyone who may have watched the show) is on a mission to lose weight. You see, only three months ago, she became a mother. But according to her, “I’m definitely not pleased when I look in the mirror.” Trista, weighing in at a whopping 116 pounds and size four, wants to lose that pesky baby weight, stat!

In an interview with US Magazine, Trista reveals how she especially dislikes

my belly. It has a layer of fat, which, of course, your body has to put on, but it’s blubbery and I hate it. I want to be able to go bathing suit shopping for a vacation and not feel totally disgusted… I just don’t feel good in a lot of my clothes.

Trista, Trista. Can I sit down with you for a second? We need to have a conversation. Go ahead and get comfy, because this might take a while.

I can totally understand wanting to feel healthy. I can understand a bit wanting to be thin again. Carrying a baby around, especially in the last trimester, makes you feel all waddly and ungainly. But wait, you ninny, you are still thin. I don’t know you, but I feel the overwhelming urge to call you a ninny, I hope you don’t mind.

That weight was put on your body specifically for your baby. There is nothing to be ashamed about. There is nothing to feel bad about. I think by saying that the most important thing in your life right now is losing weight does a disservice to all new mothers. Why such pressure to be “thin?” Which is such a relative term, because I haven’t weighed 116 since high school.

Let me tell you what the most important thing is. Bonding with your child, and bonding with your husband as new parents of a precious baby. That is what you should be focusing on.

Three months after the birth of my son, I was lucky to even get a decent amount of sleep, much less be all concerned that I didn’t fit into my “size 26 Hudson jeans.” If I was able to take one shower within a 24 hour period, I thought my life was fabulous. I didn’t think twice about how sexy I was or wasn’t. And my husband didn’t care either. He thought (and still thinks) I was sexy no matter what. How does your husband feel about you?

If I eat something that I shouldn’t, Ryan shakes his finger at me and says, ‘Uh, uh, uh!’ He’s been awesome, 100 percent supportive. He watches Max when I go to the gym and is constantly saying that I look great. But when you don’t feel good about yourself, you don’t feel like you want to be intimate. I want to feel, and look, sexy again for him. Even though he is being nice and saying he’s still attracted to me, I want to feel like he’s telling me the truth and not just saying it because he’s a good husband.

Earth to Trista, you call your husband scolding you like a naughty child “awesome?” You think your husband is just lying to you when he says you are still attractive?

Honey, I need to grab that shovel out of your hands before you dig yourself any deeper.

Now, if you will excuse me, my blubbery belly and I feel the need for some cookies.

P.S. Plumcake suggests that Trista needs a good punching.

21 Responses to “Revealing More Than She Thinks”

  1. gemdiva Says:

    Let me get this straight….you cariied and gave birth to a child, you are a size FOUR, your hubby shakes his finger at you and says “Uh, uh, uh” when you try to eat and you think that’s “supportive”? Honey, if I were you I’d have a finger to shake at him and it would definitely NOT be supportive. Thanks Trista for striking another blow for poor self body image for millions of American women and girls. You need serious therapeutic intervention ASAP!

  2. Margaret Says:

    she can kiss my fat not-having-had-a-child-but-I-still-have-a-ginormous-butt. So can he.

  3. ML Says:

    Obviously this woman has eating issues. Too bad cause she sounds like an idiot!

  4. Beenzzz Says:

    Wow! She’s kind of….am…I’m not going there. Only three months after giving birth and she thinks that going to the gym is more important than the baby? It actually takes your body a year before it’s back to normal. When my daughter was three months old, I begged for sleep as well. I didn’t look too great, but I had a little one to think of. Her husband wags his finger at her? If my husband did that to me (dieting or not) I would kick him in the goodie bags and bury him in the backyard. OK, I’ve gone off the deep end.. but, WTF is wrong with these people?

  5. dgm Says:

    Ew. About both of them. Just, EW.

  6. Awesome Mom Says:

    That is wrong on so many levels. I saw the cover in the grocery store the other day and was repulsed just by the cover. I would break my husband’s finger off if he was shaking it and telling me what I could and could not eat. I happen to have a bit of cushioning and my husband still finds me sexy. Trista needs to get over herself. I doubt the marriage will last very long if appearances play so heavily into how they feel about each other.

  7. Twistie Says:

    Wow. I’ve heard of Freudian slips, but this is a Fruedian lingerie warehouse!

    A couple years ago, I decided I wasn’t feeling well or sexy or happy. I came to the conclusion that losing some weight would be a good idea. Size four? I’ve never been a size four in my life. I just figured being a size 26 at 5’2″ combined with feeling depressed and very unhealthy was not a good way to live.

    Two years later, I’m down to a size 16/18, feeling healthier, happier and better about myself. I still don’t feel a need to get down to size four. I’ve hit a point where I feel good about me, and what number pops up on the scale isn’t important. If I’d felt healthy at a size 26, I wouldn’t have worried about losing weight, either. If I lose a few more pounds, that’s nice, but not important. I’ve got energy and joy in life again.

    My husband has been entirely supportive during the entire process – well, from the time he became certain this was about me feeling good and feeling good about myself rather than meeting outside expectations – and he has never once chastised me for reaching for a snack. He treats me like an adult who knows what she does and doesn’t want, not like a naughty child who needs to be punished for wanting a cookie between meals. If I get down about how I look or feel, he keeps reminding me that he loves me no matter what. That’s what support really is.

    I still put more effort into taking care of my family and my cat than I do losing weight. If I had a new baby to care for, my weight would be about the last thing on my mind. It sure as hell wouldn’t be the first.

  8. Melissa Says:

    Honestly? I don’t hate her. I just feel really sorry for her. This is a woman who has placed a high premium on meeting a certain standard of beauty and doesn’t feel good about herself and her life unless she looks that way. I’m sure a lot of young mothers struggle with mixed emotions when they look at their post-baby bodies and think “wow, my boobs used to be a lot higher and my belly was so much flatter.” For the majority of those moms, love for the baby and pride in what their bodies accomplished (producing another human being is frankly pretty awesome) allows them to continue feeling happy about their bodies and their lives even if their old jeans don’t quite zip up. But it seems that Trista’s happiness is completely tied up in having a flat stomach and wearing a size 2, and I think it’s really sad. I can’t be angry at someone with such a warped and unhappy worldview.

    But shame on US Weekly for giving Trista a forum to tell the world how much she hates her baby belly. They are encouraging self-loathing among new mothers and I hope whatever editor decided to put this on the cover gets slapped across the face by his/her mother.

  9. Nance Says:

    Trista Who? And aside from the obvious self-esteem and husband-as-paternal-figure issues, can we not focus on that nightmarish ensemble she’s sporting on the magazine’s cover? What the heck is she wearing? That top has a bandeau and a tunnel pocket, yet no accompanying sweatshirty-looking hood. And those pants! Good heavens! What…are…they?! I have news for Trista: even a size 00 can’t pull off that frumpy outfit. Get a stylist, honey, or all the finger-wagging “support” in the world won’t put you back on the casting couch.

  10. J Says:

    This is the stupidest thing I’ve seen all week. And I’ve seen a lot of stupid. I, like Melissa, feel sorry for her. She’s in for a rough time, if having a flat flat stomach is the biggest priority in her life. (And her stomach is still pretty darned flat)

    I think she married well…they’re both kind of shallow and dumb, and they deserve each other. It is too bad, though, that they decided to breed.

  11. raincoaster Says:

    She is, indeed, the poster girl for the shallow end of the gene pool. The poor kid looks like he’s making a break for it. Go, kid, go!

    But boy, what a whale, eh? Size four! She can lose four or five pesky ounces by having her brain sucked out through her nostrils, and she’ll never miss it!

  12. Glinda Says:

    gemdiva- Agreed, she needs an appointment with a shrink.

    Margaret- Yes, I find them equally annoying.

    ML- She certainly places too high of a premium on her looks.

    Beenzzz- A swift kick to the goodie bags just might set that guy straight! Ryan, that is, not your hubs!

    dgm- Succint, but well said.

    AM- More men than you think place a very high premium on the looks of their partners. It’s kind of scary, actually.

    Twistie- Losing weight because you don’t feel good is one thing, as you state. Losing weight because you can’t bounce a quarter off your abs right after having a kid is a whole other ball o’ wax.

    Melissa- I do feel a bit sorry for her as well, that her self-worth is so tied up in her looks.

    Nance- I am positive they dressed her purposely in something frumpy. She looks pretty good to me, even in the sweat pant-y pajama-y outfit.

    J- Yes, I’m sure their son will be coached into extreme fitness at an early age.

    rain- I’m not sure she has that much in there to suck out.

  13. BlueShoes Says:

    Oh ick. Ick. ICK. I’m having trouble deciding what I think is most loathsome. Is it the “Before baby” photo with the arrow pointing to her sculpted abs? Is it the idea that 116 pounds is “not thin”? Is it the suggestion that finger wagging is supportive? Or the suggestion that any man who claims to find a woman sexy at three months post partum must be lying?

    New moms don’t need this crap. They need to eat, the way normal human beings do, probably more than average, certainly more than enough to diet down to a size two. But if Trista is really determined to lose the baby weight, my advice to her is this: get a stomach virus. Mine has knocked me down to what I weighed when I graduated college. Not the same shape, certainly not the same energy level, and personally, I’d rather weigh five pounds more and *not* feel like crap, but to each their own, right?

  14. Alell Says:

    I’ll tell you what, she’d better not have any more babies then. Because the more you have, the more they have their way with your body. (Experience speaking: mother of seven here.) If she’s this crazy after one, she’d better be done.

  15. Joan Says:

    At three months post-partum, that layer of fat on her belly is supposed to be going directly into her breast milk. The fastest way she could lose that weight is to nurse her baby. I’m not interested enough in her to find out if she is, but given the airhead quotes I’ve read, I’d bet she isn’t.

    This is just all-around sad, that this woman places such a premium on her looks that it has warped her judgment. It’s made worse that her husband has also bought into it, and that Us has given her a megaphone.

  16. Robyn Says:

    I have an almost 5 month old, and recently been feeling very crappy about my size 14 butt and thighs that don’t seem to fit into anything sold at any store anywhere, and dreaming about when I used to be a size 10 and fit into size medium.

    What has now distracted me (besides my delightful baby) is ALL MY HAIR IS FALLING OUT. Balding is much more disconcerting than only having one pair of pants to wear. Miss Too Fat At Size Four is in for the worst surprise of her life in about a month, she is going to need a big hat to go along with that bigger bathing suit!!!

  17. slownews Says:

    And Trista, honey, whatever you do, don’t have twins. Even a year later, my stomach is basically a waterbed covered in loose crepe paper. Not that I love it or anything, it’s just between my three kids and husband and job and LIFE, I don’t have much time for fretting about it. My advice? Find something meaningful to do with your time, for example, taking care of your child.

  18. deja pseu Says:

    At three months post-partum, that layer of fat on her belly is supposed to be going directly into her breast milk.

    I was thinking the same thing: nature provides a little extra fat to be sure we can nourish a baby.

  19. Pencils Says:

    Her husband “watches” the baby while she goes to the gym? That’s his baby too. He doesn’t “watch” or “babysit” his own child, he cares for him. He should be caring for his own child on a regular basis, but it doesn’t sound like it. But then, what can you expect from these two? They’re a pair of shallow reality show contestants.

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